Quote Of The Day

“In the cycle of nature there is no such thing as victory or defeat: there is only movement. When the human heart understands this, it is free and able to accept difficult times and not be deceived by moments of glory.”

Coelho, Paul. (2012). Manuscript found in Accra. London: Harper, pp. 20-21

Book review: Americanah

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Reading Americanah felt me with joy and excitement. It is a story of love and race, centered around a young Nigerian couple, who face difficult choices and challenges in the countries they come to call home. The story unfolds in three different continents: America, Africa and Europe. It gives an insight about the experience Africans get, when migrating into a foreign country.

Thanks to Minna Salami (Ms Afropolitan, blogger), who introduced me to the works of the author Chimamanda Ngozi  Adichie in the first place. I was once brought along to the screening of Adichie´s – Half of a Yellow Sun. That also is a masterpiece of itself, telling a story of two sisters during the Biafran War.

The gift of reading should be cherished as a treasure. I can´t imagine how long and boring my commute around the city of London, my free time would be if not equipped with books. I hadn’t yet read much of African literature before but I must say with this book and her amazing writing style, I hope a new generation of readers will be attracted to start from here.

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Raphael Saadiq – Good Man

Most women get comfortable knowing how much they are being loved by a good man. And if they get fed up with this “boring” relationship, some sadly end up doing crazy things. Question yourself why you can´t show love and try make changes instead of making him look bad. Ladies don´t get mad and shallow about every man, because THERE ARE GOOD MEN! Show love!

Mr Perfect is the Mr Appropriate

We all come with baggage, we all have a past and in the fullness of time we shall disclose all. We all want the same thing: a nice someone to spend our days and nights with. God will give us what we deserve, not what we want. You might get someone God wants you to change to a better person or to help you yourself making positive changes in your life. Pray to god to get your answers and ask him to open your eyes to acknowledge what is right for you in the right time. Open your heart and judge each potential partner on their merit- don’t let false expectations stop you from receiving the love of a lifetime. There is no Mr. Perfect, but the appropriate one.

Saying yes to love is saying yes to life. It is affirming that only by choosing to experience the good and bad sides of life, you will be able to experience life´s richest rewards.

If you seek love, you have to be willing to accept the whole package, the work and the struggles as well as the joys.

Why I love(d) Volunteering

Vounteering shouldn´t be seen as a solution to a problem but as an opportunity to give your time, energy and experience to help something to happen that you think is important to gain valuable knowledge, experience and skills. If lucky, you will be able to do both.

The question that you should be asking yourself at first would be that: Do you want to learn new skills? Do you want to support a local, national or global cause? Do you want to learn more about a particular area of work? You need to think about what you can offer to the organization and what they will be able to offer you in return.

Part of the huge value of volunteering is it can help you gain skills and experience. Doing things that you didn´t expect to be doing when you started to volunteer.

A good volunteer experience is one where you are needed and given opportunity to grow and develop in your role. I had amazing opportunities to volunteer for and I appreciate the experience I gained and I do not regret the time I investing into free work.

However, there is time and space for all and certainly living in London city, affording all life expenses by yourself, you will surely come to the same conclusion like me to put a hold to free work. I believe that volunteering only works for a period of time but has a limit.

The risk of having an unstable financial support is too high and not worth it living in this expensive city. It is just not right to expect too much of volunteers considering the fact that it is for free. What is free in life today? Freedom. Yes. Willpower. Yes. Peace. Yes. But volunteering without a financial stability is certainly not fun enough after a period of time. Enough is enough.